Dreams About Sex

At some point, I will have to begin writing about this topic.

In a culture which is so permated with sexuality in media – music videos & lyrics, movies, TV shows, it’s almost comical to me that when someone  (me) tries to speak directly about healthy, loving and mature sexual relationships that it is still considered so taboo.

If it were up to me, I’d just rather leave the topic alone because it’s so private anyways.

But in terms of Dreamwork and personal development, sex is a powerful symbol of integration of positive qualities. So it has to be talked & written about. It can’t be avoided no matter how I try.

So before I leap into the topic let me share…..

The Top 7 Reasons I Don’t Want to Write About Sex on This Blog:

  1. What will people think?
  2. Will I be misunderstood?
  3. Will it come across wrong?
  4. Will it change the way people think of me?
  5. Will they think something badly?
  6. Will it interrupt my intention to compassionately address the topic of personal growth?
  7. It’s just so complex. What if I’m not capable?

As I overcome these very critical and judgemental thoughts about talking openly about sex and sexuality, I’ll continue posting.

In time, it will be easy to see how having a healthy, mature, and loving sexual relationship is one of the most significant keys to personal growth and transformation.

When a Big Fear Shows Up in Dreams or Real Life

When a big fear shows up in a dream, like a thief for example, part of the solution is to look at areas in life where the dreamer is “robbing” themselves.

When I had a theif dream a few months ago I really was not aware of where I was robbing myself, internally or externally.

But after careful investigation since May 23 2015 I’ve realized where I am really robbing myself.

The solution to a nightmare is to the positive opposite. So a robbery is to take something ftom someone unexpectedly. So my turning this around involves giving to others (and myself) unexpectedly.

Because of limits of money and time the best way I can surprise people is by writing positive things about them and for them, to promote through articles the things and people I believe in.

So that’s what I’ve been doing now for the past two months. Let’s see how it goes! 🙂

DREAM: Run-A-Way Bus/Truck

– on a bus and see the driver fell asleep, I try to move his hands to the steering wheel but it doesn’t work and he isn’t waking up. There is a construction truck right ahead of us. I put my feet on the breaks and steer we miss it and don’t crash but the bus, which is now like a truck is going too fast and breaks don’t work. we go over hills. I tell everyone to hang on Gracie and 3 friend are in the back. we go over several hills and finally stop.

– In a park, I find some evidence of something on a picnic table, is a coin and a baggie of sorts. I ask Gracie to bring it to the police and she does and they come over. At first I feel tremendous fear that they suspect me but then they come around and thank me, ask me more about what I’ve seen, and I share with them.

– I’m playing a game similar to tag with people who are all 12 feet tall. When we stop running we stand in a circle. They are all SO TALL! They say lets not play because they don’t want me to feel bad but I say no it’s okay. They don’t mean any harm even though they are tall.

– I’m in house. People knocking/banging on the door to come in. Like a small group of high school Italian boys who think they are very tough. I ignore them but someone else lets them in, then I follow them because I have a sense they are up to no good

– Gracie and I are outside going somewhere walking on a street. It sort of has the feeling of a parade. Then a news broadcaster comes up and starts asking questions & videoing us. It has to do with the evidence we found. I’m happy to speak to them but want to know what they want to hear. It makes it a bit awkward at first but then we figure it out.


This dream has a mix of positive and negative symbols.

To read more about what that means symbolically, click here.

To read more about my emotional processing in training, click here.

To read more about my physical progress in training on Facebook, click here.

To read more about my physical progress in training on Creating Unity Blog, click here.


To read the story about how my Taekwondo instructor started a school in a low-income neighbourhood click here.



How To Deal With A Nightmare In Real Life or Dream World




Richard Hastings originally published on June 19, 2015

Dreams For Peace

What should your attitude be after you have had an intense nightmare or have gone through a horrific experience in real life?

When most people begin working with what is happening with themselves,  the first goal they have is to get rid of the recurrence of the negative feelings.   When you are feeling a great deal of fear because the memories of some horror like being in war or being with an abusive person get triggered constantly,  the actual experience in your body of the negative emotion can be so awful that the only thing you can think of is getting rid of it as quickly as possible. Most people do a lot of coping strategies like alcohol or drugs or relationships to forget the pain.

As awful as the feelings are to cope with, the goal is NOT to completely forget the nightmare or keep it from recurring.  Nightmares in the dream world are just messengers.   They are not enemies to be killed and forgotten.  How could this be if they feel so intensely bad?   There is a key to doing internal work that is so powerful that once you learn it, everything will change for you.   What is the key?

The key is that almost everything you develop positively in yourself is preceded by something negative.   When I was 21,  a friend of mine convinced to begin running longer distances.   The first couple of days of running were so painfully awful that it was hard to imagine going back to it.   He told me that one day, if I kept with the running, that I would be able to run for an hour easily.  It was something way beyond my imagination because 15-20 minutes were really tough.  Gradually with many repetitions the pain gave way to more joy.  After a few months I was able to run for an hour.   It was exhilarating.

When you are developing a great new capacity inside, it is a similar and sometimes much more difficult process to get to.  If a young man goes off to war and faces the threat of having to kill someone or  of being killed,  it can put him into a really fearful place.   Long after the threat is over, even in the safest of places,  the fear remains, especially in his sleep in the form of nightmares.   Why do they persist? They persist because what he was supposed to be developing instead of how to kill others was how to live in peace and harmony with others, not war. The nightmare is a constant memory of undeveloped capacity. Since creating peace and harmony is such a big capacity to develop, the nightmares and fear serve as a reminder to him just how undeveloped these capacities really are. They will persist for as long as they are undeveloped.   So it isn’t really that we are trying to rid ourselves of the memories of war or of having been abused, but to develop new capacities that keep war and abuse from happening in the real world.   This is the journey of the soul.   The nightmares are the messengers of just how much progress we have  or have not made. When a challenge is big like creating world peace, the memories are there so that you won’t give up developing the new thing.

When I learned this key to development many years ago,  I started the habit of getting really excited when I had a nightmare rather than being really upset or despondent.  I realized that when I had a nightmare, it just meant that I had a lot of work to do inside of myself to develop something new.   This all began when I was fired from my employment for the first time.  I used to dream about the person firing me and me swearing at her.   When I woke up from the bad feelings, I just said to myself that I have a lot of work to do to detach from what she did and then keep helping people with the transformation work.

So the key to a nightmare or the key to working with memories of abuse is that they are just messengers that something big and positive wants to develop inside.   When you can get excited about the new thing, the memories and nightmares, though they may persist for awhile, are not so intense.


When I first read Richard’s post entitled “Dealing with Nightmares in the Real or Dream world” on June 19, 2015 I had just had an intense nightmare which was shaking up the way I felt about myself and the way I felt about every area of my life. I felt so much fear days after the nightmare that when I woke up each morning I didn’t think I could do all I had planned to do because I felt so much fear.

The solutions I applied for a year have been written in a book which I am now editing and which will be ready for launching soon from this site.


Music has always helped me with processing negative emotions. Here is one of my favourites about making a home.

What is Hippo’s Message in a Dream?

I dreamed of hippos recently.

This is a new symbol for me.

Having some fun with it, I searched Google and found this at Spirit Animal Totems:

If Hippopotamus has come across your path:

He is reminding you that if you have become bored with your life you have the creative power to stir things up and revitalize things by starting new projects, goals and spiritual connections. Do this by following the tried and true methods of reaching your goals and focus on the success of your projects. Take the time to dream your dreams and choose the path that will be right for you to achieve them. Understand that you will need to commit to your goals in order to fulfill them.

If Hippopotamus is your Animal Totem:

You have an innate ability to know what lies beneath the surface of any situation. You see and speak the truth and will demand that others respect that truth. You are highly intuitive and act on your intuition without hesitation or questioning it. You are practical, balanced and grounded in your lifestyle. You will often submerge yourself in in the creative process without fear of the power emotionsthat surface in this process. You have a strong connection to the spiritual, artistic and healing realms of water. Often those of you with this totem are susceptible to sun related problems including dehydration – so you must be careful outdoors.

If Hippopotamus has come into your Dream:

A Hippopotamus can represent emotional clearing, or emotional turmoil. If it is a baby hippo and you are looking after it the dream may be a indicating that a big event is occurring in your life, one that will grow and claim much of your time.

To see a group of hippopotamuses in your dream suggests that you need to escape from the daily grind and relax.

Alternatively, to see a Hippopotamus in your dream often symbolizes your hidden strengths and your aggressive nature. You have more influence and power than you realize. There is also the possibility that it indicates that you are being territorial. Is someone is overstepping their boundaries?

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Additional Associations for Hippopotamus…



This really speaks to my need for a vacation. I think it’s also telling me to prepare for some creativity and new projects which may come out of the vacation.

How exciting!