In the dream, E.E. and I are in a movie together. We’ve been given parts as husband and wife. He’s sitting on the couch and I’m standing beside him. Secretly I think he’s one of the most handsome and loving men I’ve ever met but our paths are different and we aren’t meant to be partnered, just friends. But I wonder to myself, how will I use my natural attraction to him in the role for effect but also not make it obvious that it is coming from my real feelings.
The director signals it’s time to start and I sit on the couch to his left, figuring I’d snuggle in. The director asked me to sit on him but I didn’t think that was a good idea. Too close. But when I sit beside him that’s not good either. The couch is too soft and I sink too low and our embrace isn’t natural or comfortable. So then I say okay, I’ll sit on your lap.
I sit on his lap and he positions his arm so I can lean against it. He’s strong and supportive. I just relax into him and his other hand reaches over to hold mine. Our fingers entangle together. The soft and sensuous touch is so calming.
On the flip side of this very positive dream was what some would call somethings which were negative to the extreme. In a situation like this, the very positive is the solution to the very negative.
The very negative situation was where I had stopped by to visit someone and my sister was there. In the dream, she did something which caused the charger on my computer to severe in half and become unusable. It was impossible to repair it and I also didn’t have time or money to buy a new one. I calculated that I had about a day’s worth of charge in the computer and wondered how I would solve this in a day so I would have a working computer by the time the battery needed to be charged.
As I was thinking about that she went into a manic state where she was talking loudly, acting unusual and causing a lot of disruption. It got everyone’s attention quickly. My challenge with that was when I wanted to talk to someone about what I needed I couldn’t because they were all absorbed in her nonsensical behaviour.
So – how to solve this?
The problem begins for me when I go into an apartment of someone who has done me wrong in the past. I go there with good intentions to bridge things and they have other ideas which are mainly just to make me look bad.
The difference between this negative scenario and the positive one in a moving-making set is that when we are all sharing a common collective understanding of what we are doing and what we are making then the process goes smoother for everyone.
When I go into a situation and there is no unity of thought I leave without a charger and everything gets chaotic.
The main problem with people who are jealous is that they just try to always bring people into a conflict with them so they can make someone look bad. Staying out of a conflict with them is the key to moving forward charged up and getting really good work done.
For those readers who are new to dreamwork and changework I can imagine some of the concepts in this post are somewhat advanced and without a basic introduction to the work it might seem a bit overwhelming. There is a really good description given by Richard Hastings on this radio show.
For more advanced readers, the basic concepts will be familiar. The idea of using the positive metaphors to flip the negative ones is fundamental. As is the concept of sensual interactions between men and women as being symbolic for intimacy in relationships and integration of qualities.
There is nothing more frightening on the planet then a jealous woman. Her destruction can tear apart dozens of people in a large family. What to do when you go into a situation expecting to help and support but find someone is intent on destroying you?
The solution in this case is to put fears and awkward feelings aside and move forward in positive ways with the right people. Then the right environments open up for true growth and progress in ways that work for everyone.
In that way, the work is not only easy and enjoyable but also continuous and steady. Those old ways can stay in the past where they belong.