Dream: My Mom Dumps Stuff On Me … Again

13 September 2017

IMG_1326In the dream, I exit my front door and find there is a camper-trailer in the front driveway as well as a truck full of things. The front yard is cluttered full of objects. It looks like someone bought 100 broken things at garage sales and then dumped them all on my front lawn. It doesn’t take me long to recognize that my mom has come in the middle of the night, emptied a yard-full of junk because she didn’t know where else to put it and then left. When I ask her about it, she denies it.

But then I see her ex-husband there moving things out and I know the Truth!

This kind of clutter is NOT ALLOWED on my property and I know when my landlord sees it he will be upset and want me to move it immediately. How can I get my Mom to move it immediately when she won’t admit it is hers?

I consider going to my landlord proactively and telling him what has happened but I know that he will find it very odd and he will consider lots of things including that I have made up some sort of lie to cover up something or someone because it just doesn’t make sense to have a bunch of things on your lawn and not know whose they belong to.

If I don’t tell him and just start helping my ex-step-dad then I look like I’m taking responsibility for it even though it isn’t mine and I have no idea why it is there.

If I don’t tell him and also don’t start help moving it out and cleaning it up then it appears to be mine and by that non-action I invite him over to be the one to bring to my attention the issues.

So in the dream, I’m standing there, looking at this enormous pile of junk 7 feet high on my lawn and I am wondering what on earth can I do now?

As I watch, my ex-step-father just keeps moving things onto the truck and preparing to take them away.

My analysis: Clutter & mess is about the ego in a dream. Sometimes someone becomes so full of ego, so full of their false selves, that they create a lot of “mess” in the lives of others around them. Since I didn’t move in the dream but just watched it means the thing I’m learning to get good at is saying NO to the ego-mess caused by people who are full of their negative selves and keep dumping stuff on me trying to make me look bad. I know the Truth though and others who look close enough can know the Truth too. It’s a good lesson for us all to learn and in time it will get easier and easier!

Dream Analysis: Funeral in a Dream is a Signal For Collective Transformation

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04 July 2017

DreamWORK is a process of remembering a dream, writing it down, looking for the metaphors and understanding the message. The WORK is when negative emotions show up in dreams such as fear, rage, jealousy because in time the dreamer can learn more positive ways of dealing with the negatives and then transform them into more positive feelings such as Courage, Joy and Unity.

A dream about a funeral, like the one I had last night, is a reminder that sometimes a process of transformation is not just for one individual but is, in fact, a collective experience such as when people come together to collectively grieve over the passing of a loved one. This commonly shared emotion of loss is experienced at a funeral and the sharing of that moment builds bonds of Trust and connection with the others.

In the dream, I am in a funeral.

When I work through the message of this dream it’s easy-as-pie to see the work ahead of me today.

A funeral is a place where people go to mourn the loss of their loved one.

Even though I do not have a literal funeral to deal with in real life, I have a metaphoric one.

Even though someone I care about is still alive it is like they have died. The funeral dream shows me that.

When strong negative emotions such as sorrow or grief show up in a dream it means it’s time to throw out some old ways of looking at things and start looking at them differently.

It has been said that “Death is a Messenger of Joy” which is the complete opposite to what we typically think of in death.

But the statement is worth reflecting on.

Death & Dying is sorrowful if you believe there is nothing more to the human experience than the flesh and bone.

But if you believe that there is a non-physical part of the human experience, the way I do, then it is REALLY possible to see the Joy in death. I can think of no greater Joy then to have the delight of experiencing the process of leaving this body and souring into the non-physical realms and continuing on an eternal path towards Excellence.

There is a spiritual belief in the world that the physical world is just the first stage of growth and development for the soul and that the soul carries the memories of this world with it into all the worlds which follow this one.

Just thinking about that as I write uplifts my heart.

I love contemplating the mystery of Life and the mystery of death.

Since this image of a funeral came to me in a dream last night it means I can also consider that a part of me is dying. When I ask myself, “What part of me is dying? What part of me is changing & transforming?” The answer is really clear.

Armed with this answer I can then move forward with a lot of Enthusiasm & Confidence using all my gifts to their fullest to enjoy the wonderful life I’m living with people I love working and relating with.

Steps in a Dream are About Being Systematic

17 September 2017

IMG_1249When you dream of steps or stairs, you can right away think about what can be done systematically to get to where you want to go.

Steps going down are about going into the unconscious parts or unconscious memories of your self.

Steps or stairs going up are about going up into your higher self, becoming more conscious, more aware.

When you dream of steps and it’s a good dream, you can start thinking of step-by-step actions you can take to achieve a vision you are going for.

When you dream of steps and it’s a negative dream, it means the way you are doing things is not going to get you to where you want to go.

Here are a few steps to take when you have a positive vision you are working towards.

  1. Hold the image of the Positive Vision in your mind. Think of it and imagine the details as much as possible.
  2. Notice what stands in the way of that vision happening today as you wish. What is the biggest obstacle?
  3. Consider your strengths, resources, skills and capacities which can help you overcome that obstacle and have determination to do something to move in the direction of your vision.
  4. Arise from your meditation or reflection with the determination to take that step and then do it today. What is one small step you can take in the positive direction of your desired vision and TAKE THE STEP.

When you are in a daily habit of practicing this often you will be surprised at the amazing results.

Never-ending Mess Cycle: How To Deal With Addicts

22 June 2017

Mess.

Just the word alone makes me cringe.

It shows up in my dreams and in my real life daily.

I understand that a big mess is a symbol for big ego issues.

I am also beginning to understand that since I’ve gotten really masterful at cleaning up other people’s (ego) messes that there is more to this than what I first realized.

Today I am thinking about a dream image where as soon as I cleaned up a mess it would return.

The feeling of anxiety, frustration, disappointment and fear which this raised brings me to my knees.

And I realize that I am waking up to the reality that some people who like to create messes in other people’s lives are addicted to the thrill of it.

Perhaps they are also addicted to pot, or alcohol, or sex or work – but whatever is their addiction of choice, they like to make messes in other people’s lives so that they can then go about their addiction.

In the dream I felt powerless to deal with it but in real life there are dozens of options.

I’ll write more about this in time.

It’s just an introductory post about the work of truly healing people with addictions.

Dreamwork: Coming Face-to-Face With Someone’s Negatives

12 September 2017

IMG_1188I recently had a dream where I was running from someone who likes to tease and mock others to make themselves feel more powerful. In a family or in a work place, when someone is being negative like this, and does not stop after being asked to, then there are structures and systems in place to isolate and then terminate the negative person. In my dream, the authority figure was not doing their job to protect the rights and safety of their group and they didn’t want others to find out so instead of fixing the problem, they started bullying too.

What I realized when I was working through the metaphors of this dream, is that I just used to tolerate a lot of bad behaviour for a long time, thinking I suppose, that the person will realize what they are doing is negative and they will change it. I was wrong in the past though. People don’t change their negative behaviours if they don’t have a conscious and they don’t want to grow or improve themselves.

So the important thing dealing with this kind of person is to say, “No” and to set firm boundaries so they understand when they are crossing a line. When they cross that line there are clear consequences. In the case of harassment, you must first tell the stalker, “Stop calling me!” for example and ONLY if they call you after that statement can you “legally” call the situation stalking.

The key solution to my dream is that I waited a really long time to tell the person NO and the situation escalated worse & worse. So what I can do to solve this is just realize where in my life I am running from someone negative, metaphorically speaking, and how I can stand up and say NO! STOP! with my own authority.

If the situation is one of abuse, saying No and setting boundaries is likely meaningless to the abuser.

But the really positive thing is that if there is not abuse and the individuals really want to go deeper in the closeness of the relationship then saying No is a good way to communicate something that is important.

It’s also important to remember the positives. During an argument or in a moment of fear, it is sometimes hard to remember the positives but with attention and diligence it is possible to find enough positives to turn the whole situation around.

Try this the next time you feel someone is pushing you to your limits. Take a deep breath. Tell them No. And look for the positives. Tell the positives to the person and see what great depths open up in the relationship.

Some really magical things can happen next!