22 August 2017
This has been a topic I’ve avoided writing about for some time.
I’ve written about the “mess” I inherited & learned in early childhood but I haven’t written directly about how messes show up with others and how to deal with it in a way which is long-lasting and permanent.
So messes can show up in a dream in a variety of ways.
If there is a mess in a house it means there is something happening with the ego which is affecting the positive development of the self.
If there is a mess in a yard it means there is something negative happening which influences or is influenced by others in a more public way.
If there is a mess in a building or in office place then it is about how the ego is affecting productive development between people who are working together, in a profession or in any type of agreement or working arrangement.
A MESS in a dream means someone clearly has an ISSUE around the area, be it the Self, or the Work, or the Social Setting.
When someone has an issue it means there has been an early experience of trauma in that area and the memory of it is still really strong in the mind and affects the person regularly. It means they have a negative part of themself which shows up when they are afraid of something and this negative part creates a so-called MESS of some sort which has the effect of slowing or stopping the relationship, the progress, the work, etc.
When this is understood, then it is easy to help people through their fear-based trauma reaction by offering encouragement, reassurance, patience, kindness, etc. When the trust is re-built and the fear dissolved then work can continue in whatever area needed.
So if you dream of a big mess, in your house, or your work space, or your neighbourhood then you can start asking yourself, “Where in my life is the biggest mess?” and try to discern “Who am I having the biggest challenge with right now?” What is someone doing that is causing a big mess and what does it lead you to do?
When you can start to understand their fear and their ego-mess you can have increased patience and loving-kindness towards them.
Incredible challenges can be overcome with this approach.
Go ahead. Give it a try. And feel free to write about the experience in the comments below.