09 September 2017
Clothing in a dream is about roles. For me to wear a bathrobe at an elegant banquet shows that my role is unique in some ways. Bathing is about relaxation, rejuvination & cleansing. So this dream is saying I’m at my best when I’m in a relaxed state and it’s good for others too. Since it is a banquet setting it means that there is a lot of nourishment to get out of an environment when I am relaxed and playful with friends.
This is the same for everyone. When we are relaxed, calm & detached then we can be our True Selves and enjoy all aspects of life.
Here is the dream.
Last night I dreamed I was in a really fancy banquet dinner but I was wearing a red fleece bathrobe. It made no difference to me because the person I was with (W.K.) and I were having so much fun but at some point someone came over and was mocking me & my apparel.
Suddenly, I just told my friend to wait and went over to the mockingly negative person. Looking her straight in the eyes I extended my hand and I said, “Hi my name is … ” then I paused because I didn’t even want to tell her my name.
Not finishing the sentence, I just told her point-blank, “I’m a journalist and I look forward to writing all about this event.”
She must have been an investor or had ties to the event so she felt her reputation was on the line indirectly. She did what a lot of people do when I tell them I’m an investigative journalist and she just straightened her back, lowered her eyes and she mumbled, “Carry on, in a non-threatening way.”
So I returned to my friend and we continued joking and playing.
02 September 2017
In the dream, I was visiting friends, sitting on a couch watching TV. Someone brought out a bong and some weed and we all started smoking it. I watched how the others inhaled through their mouth & nose and then copied them. They passed it all around and then re-filled it and were going to pass it around again but then someone from next door banged on the door telling us we were being too noisy and to go to bed.
I just sat there on the couch, feeling really high, watching the TV.
A friend who is dressed as a police officer in the dream comes over and she was high too. She flopped on the couch and we started laughing together.
Getting high in a dream is a metaphor for going to high states of mind or being. In real life, it’s not advisable to use any sort of stimulant to alter the mind and perception, nor is it recommended to become attached to any material object or person. It’s also always wise to practice living within the bounds of moderation in all things. So in real life, smoking weed is not the ideal way to “get high.”
But in the dream it is the perfect metaphor for rising above the limiting conditions of this world and getting to a positive state of mind.
The dream is saying that I can get myself to a really high state of mind and be comfortable with it. I join in with a group so that also means that I can be in an uplifted and elevated state of mind with others as well.
This is about having a positive perspective and arising above challenges & limitations in day-to-day living.
01 September 2017
Something I found helpful when I was learning to remember my dreams is to ask myself a few questions when I first wake up. Instead of waking up and leaping out of bed, I would lay still in bed for a few minutes and just observe the nature of the images in my mind or the feelings/sensations in my body. If there was a strong emotion I would sit with it for a while and wait until more came up about what dream caused this emotion to surface.
I found thinking of a dream as a story line really helped. I’d ask myself key questions that are a part of every story.
- What as the setting? (Was it inside/outside? In nature? In a city, etc)
- Who was there? (Did I know the person? What were they wearing? What details are clear here?)
- What were we doing? (This is where the plot of the dream starts to emerge.)
- What was the main challenge/obstacle? (Every story has a challenge which comes either from a) nature b) inside the person c) from another person/group
- What was the outcome? How did it end?
When I asked these 5 questions I could begin to easily remember a dream nearly every time I slept.
Try it and see if it works for you too. Please let me know how it goes for you.
07 September 2017
When I first heard this concept that “Fear Has a Structure” I had no idea what the person was talking about and it might sound strange to you too.
But after years of seeking to understand I believe I’m finally beginning to get it.
People in different cultures share specific fears, and pass down those fears to their children and their grand-children based on the specific dangers or threats in their environments. That’s why people from the West will have different generalized fear than people who grew up in the East.
It must apply to the whole of humanity as well. That there are some fears which affect EVERYONE. I bet the fear of being isolated, alone or excluded is up there as the top Mother of All Fears which no one can really escape because we are a social species, designed to work together for the common good of all.
With this in mind, it is easier to understand how the same negative behaviour can show up in a family AND in a co-worker AND in a neighbour. If three people from the same culture have the same fear (of being isolated, for example) and they’ve all learned the same negative coping pattern – teasing or criticizing others for example – then it means one individual could hypothetically speaking be dealing with 3 others who are all fear-based critical people.
This is the reason why learning to deal with a negative behaviour in a family can also help to solve issues with negative behaviour in the work place.
Wherever it shows up, whichever environment, the solutions are the same. Be positive & warm even to those who are unkind and cruel.
Show them by your own behaviour how you would like them to treat you and let them learn from the results of their own behaviours.