DAY 15: BEING ATTRACTED TO THE DIFFICULT THING
O SON OF MAN! If adversity befall thee not in My path, how canst thou walk in the ways of them that are content with My pleasure? If trials afflict thee not in thy longing to meet Me, how wilt thou attain the light in thy love for My beauty? Baha’u’llah
The other day I was working with someone in a counseling session. She was telling me a dream that she had sent me that was filled with fearful images including being threatened by someone throwing a snake at her. When she was finished, she said, “That was a good one.” I told her that that was something I would say. Very few people encounter and internal state of immense fear and then have positive energy toward working on it. Usually when people have fear, they tend to do everything they can to not have to transform it.
Within the confines of doing dream work or change work fear is not seen as a negative even though it is felt that way in the body. In actuality fear only becomes a negative when it is present in your everyday waking life. When you are involved in the process of changing it, it is a positive thing. In fact it is hard to imagine, although it is possible, to do significant change work without a large dose of a fear-related emotion. Fear is good because it gives you the script through which to get the positive energy on the other end. A dream with a great deal of fear in it is even better because it is like a spiritual guide to where you want to go.
Facing a large fear is like training on hills. Hill work is a lot more challenging than running on a flat surface because every step up is worth two or three on the flat.
No human being on the planet is completely free of fear so when we have them, the best attitude toward them is being able to look forward to working on them. You can look forward to transforming a fear in same way that you look forward to taking a holiday. Every time you make progress on the fear it brings more positive energy into your life. It doesn’t matter how long it takes to overcome a fear because some fears are pretty complex and built with a lot of life experience. Your soul becomes fitter every time you look into the ego, see the dark places, then change them to light.
Today I am having a uniquely Malaysian experience. Last night we had some guests at our house that left large piles of dishes. I was so delighted at seeing the dishes because today is the day our maid is supposed to come and clean our house. However, we found out a little while ago that she is not coming. Now the mountain in the kitchen is mine to tackle. So the challenge for me is to to be able to think about it in a positive way. This is where the rubber really hits the road.
Having a positive attitude toward overcoming fear is an absolute necessity to a life of change, but some fears can be so crippling that you need a lot of help in overcoming them especially when you have a history of alcohol-related abuse and other abuse in your past. You can still have a positive attitude about facing the fears. You just need the right avenues for help.
The work for today is do the thing you least want to do, but have a positive attitude doing it.
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May 09, 2018
The other day I dreamed of running away from an avalanche of snow. I was able to get to safety with a friend and we joked around happily afterwards. Snow and cold in dreams is about the “cold” types of behaviours people do when they are filled with ego and seeking power, not thinking of how they affect others but only going for their own best interests. A great way to deal with this kind of issue in real life with people is to become like a “positive avalanche” sharing an abundance of encouragement, support and enthusiasm. That’s what I’m doing when I work with prisoners.
This dream is from back in 2011ish but the interpretation is still so meaningful even today!
My daughter and I were at an amusement park and were going down to see the whale show. The bleachers were set up beside the ocean. We go down there and there are 3 orca whales that are interacting with the people in the front row. They are playful and beautiful. So magestic. Grace comes down and is in a great mood then she just jumps right into the water. I’m not concerned at first. I know she can swim. But then instead of coming up to me she swims farther into where the whales are swimming and even past them. A lifeguard jumps out to get her. The whole audience is hushed as they wait. The lifeguard gets her and brings her back. She had swam very deep and very far away. Never coming up for air but not appearing to struggle. I hold her and hug her and say ‘Oh my girl. I love you so much. You scared me.” She doesn’t understand what the big deal was. I don’t know what to tell her.
(In the time when the lifeguard is swimming out to her and the audience is hushed I am feeling ashamed that she just jumped like that and I didn’t protect her. I feel that the audience is judging me and that it appears she doesn’t respect me.)
Thank you Richard.
It is nice to hear from you. In the first dream you can think of yourself as your daughter, while in the second dream you can think of your daughter being you and it being her.
In the first dream [which appears in the e-book but not here in this short blog post] you (as your daughter’s age) want to speak, but you as the mother want to her stop in a violent way. So you can say that you are violent with yourself from speaking out more probably in a positive way about the big dreams you have and the things you want to do. The second dream is clearer about it. You have 3 big dreams(goals in your life) which are symbolized by the 3 Orcas and at first you can just dive into to achieve them, but then you get fearful of going too deep and too far and begin to panic so you send out the rescue to get yourself back to where you are right now.
The way you are raising your daughter and leading your life is allowing her and you to have big dreams and to go for them but you are fearful of going too deep and too far so then you do everything you can to stop them even being violent as in the first dream. The fear began at the current age your daughter is (age 6ish) and that is why you are violent to shut it down because you are so fearful that something bad is going to happen to her because something bad happened to you at that age.
So you can say that you are doing a wonderful job raising your daughter and that is leading her and you to be able to have big dreams and aspirations, but there is a fear that something bad is going to happen that keeps you from going after the bigger things and thus encouraging her to bigger things.
As soon as you address the fear you can be thinking much larger about your life.