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Dreamwork: Positive Dream about Moving, Cleaning a Church & Growing a Tree

26 May 2017

A house is a symbol of Self in a dream. To be moving out of a house is a good metaphor IMG_1213for change within the Self.

Everything in this dream is really positive. Positive dreams just mean keep going forward doing what’s being done.

The only hint of something negative coming up is from the darkness in the basement and the boxes coming up. So this is a sign that the next stage of change has to do with uncovering some unconscious things which come from my time as a teen when I used to spend a lot of time at a friend’s home.

When I was a teen I thought they were just being friendly but when I grew up I learned that sometimes they would invite me to their home because they saw negativity in my own home and they wanted to protect me from that to some degree.

I guess it’s no secret that there were issues in my past and in the history of my family. When I was a teen I just really wanted to live somewhere else, some place where my Self was free to develop and grow. 

But now when I look back I know it was better to say in the home with my parents. In this way, I learned my own family history in a way I couldn’t have otherwise. By learning about my own family history (which became drastically fragmented during and after World War 2) I could also understand more about the history of our culture, provincially and nationally. When I consider our roots I feel so connected to this human family and to the earth.

The greatest gift I was given was the chance to live in my own home, even if there had been generations of poverty & conflict.

When I think of this dream, of someone I know now helping me to move out of a “Self” which was developed when I was a teen I feel really excited about what is to come.

The skills, knowledge, capacities of these friends in my dream are all parts of myself and things I can aspire to and develop within my own self.

The dream is signaling to me that the growth and change will require detaching and letting go of some things. That’s why it’s about moving boxes out.

Most likely, this detaching will bring up some unconscious fears but that’s okay. When we look at a fear, and face it, then we can ascertain the positive quality which can emerge in the process. We can turn fear into Courage.

Transforming the Self – that is what Dreamwork is all about.

Here is the dream:

In the dream, I am moving out of the W’s house which was their home but also my home in the dream. D.C. arrives and he helps with unpacking. A small group of us go to a church to pick up another friend and she has been working with a church group for some time. Before she went they used to argue a lot and the atmosphere was cold but after she had been there for a while, she brought out greater peace and the atmosphere warmed up. It made me smile to see that.

Then we went back to the house to continue unpacking. There were big boxes to carry out of the basement. D.C. was so encouraging and his smile lit up the room. Just a few words from him made everything seem like it would be okay.

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[Editor’s Note: Update – The title of this post also mentions cleaning a church & growing a tree which I forgot to then include in the dream description. But cleaning a church is about removing ego from faith-based activities, and growing a tree is about nurturing new growth so those are two positives in the face of a move out of the house/Self.]

Positive Dreams Mean Just Dive Right in!

04 September 2017

Positive dreams are positively wonderful! They do not need work to transform or flip. You can just have a playful attitude and dive right into whatever life is offering you.

Playfulness is something which comes easy to children but adults sometimes have forgotten how to play or feel playful. Children do not have a lot of negative memories so they can easily play and feel safe. Adults, on the other hand, have accumulated years of negative memories where they wanted to be playful or do something which brings them joy and instead find themselves shut down. Eventually, some adults just stop trying to even have playfulness in their lives.

With dreamwork, however, Playfulness is a wonderful virtue which emerges especially after an issue has been dealt with. The lightness and joy which replaces what used to be fear and worry is quite remarkable. 

The dream I had last night is a good example of this. After working through some serious issues which showed up this week as ghosts and violence, it is so refreshing to have a happy dream of playing on a waterslide! The effort is so worth the reward!

Here is the dream:

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Inbetween rides I went to my Taekwondo club and used the washroom. I went into the males’ washroom because the women’s was being used. I noticed how grimy the floors were and the sink was not clean. When the women’s washroom became available I went there and then noticed it was really clean. I wondered if I could help by doing some cleaning for the club. It was quite, as it is on Saturday mornings. Not too much going on.

Back on the water slides, I was considering which way to go next and a man approached me about doing promotion for their website. A fellow Martial Arts student was standing behind him and started to give advice. I just looked at him right in the eyes and told him, “I’ve got this,” and showed him it wasn’t his place to interrupt here. That this was “my thing” and he was surprised at first at my assertiveness and wasn’t taking me to seriously and I stood up and moved forward towards him a slight bit and jokingly said, “stand down, my friend. I said I’ve got this.” And with that he turned his gaze back to the plate he was holding and continued snacking on whatever was there.

Then I returned to the conversation with the website guy and it seemed like things were going to work out well.

Remembering Positives in a Dream: How it Helps To Move Growth Forward

14 June 2017

I still remember the first time Richard Hastings from Dreams For Peace wrote to me that I had a dream with a mix of negatives and positives in it for “some reason.” He pointed out some of the positives and then explained how I could use those things I was already good at to help with the negatives in the dream.

After he wrote that, then this theme continued on for what seems like many months. After a while, as soon as I had a dream with any negative in it, like getting chased, or getting hurt physically, then I started looking right away for a positive. There always was one. At least one, but usually more.

Then one time he sort of freaked me out because he wrote, “the reason positives show up in a dream is to give the mind a lure, something good to go for, and also to give you a reminder of what you are good at because you will need that in order to face what is coming up.”

That freaked me out because it made me realize something negative was coming up and in order to best deal with it I had to really remember and exercise my positives.

Last night’s dream was like that – a mix of negatives and positives.

The positives were that I was hanging out with a black belt from the club and he had created a really safe place for us to just chill out and relax, to just watch movies and snack on chips. The problem was that after he put a blanket on me and I was really warm and cozy, then he got in next to me and I could see he thought maybe we would make out.

What is this “thing” which compels men to always end up thinking that a situation can lead to sex? It frustrated me in the dream. He’s a good looking guy, and great instructor in the club, and we have a lot in common in our personalities, but in the dream I just wanted to relax and watch movies and now I had to deal with him and his ego around whether or not we would get physical. So the warmth he gave me came with a price. I didn’t want to “pay” the price but I also didn’t want to give up the warmth. That sent my mind into high gear thinking of all the options and how this could turn out great for both of us.

In another part of the dream I am on a gymnastics floor training for Martial Arts. The instructor asks me to do something which she thinks will take a long time but I do it right away. This surprises her and then I explain that I was a competative gymnast until I was 14 and somethings just stuck with me. I saw the glimmer in her eye like she realized she found a gem and she was wondering how to work with what she had found. I was a bit apprehensive, not knowing if I could trust her motives but yet wanting to.

Lastly, there was a part in the dream sequence where I was a detective walking along a dark path by the river’s edge and I was following footsteps of a criminal. In the dream I knew everything – I knew who we were following, where we would find them and how we would stop them. But when I woke up it was really hard to put all those details into words.

The only thing I could consider is the great metaphor of a detective when it comes to changework because when we hunt out the negatives and transform them like a detective then life keeps getting better and better.

So – there were the positives and negatives of my recent dream. The solution now is for me to remember the positives of what I do well in my day to day life and to repeat them often and then I can get through any situation which anyone brings to me.

Anyone can do dreamwork. It just requires daily attention to the memory of the dream and the willingness to explore metaphors openly in order to learn more about the self and others. In my opinion, there is no better way to face fear and transform it than working through a dream.

How To Use Dreams To Understand the Uncomprehendable

15 June 2017

Every night for the past week I’ve dreamed about being a detective and it always is a blissful dream. But when I set out to write about the dream, I find I’m stumped to find the words.

Interestingly, I came across this dream today shared by someone else and I find that a lot comes to mind about the metaphors. So I’ll share.

The nightmare: I was with a bunch of people who were all something like FBI agents. Our goal was to capture someone by cornering him and making him give up.  It was working. We just about had him completely cornered,then the dream shifted to a completely different place where we were searching for the same person in a large building with lots of people and corners and floors making it almost impossible to find the person.  We thought that it was a bit futile.  Then I eyed the suspect walking away with someone else so I stayed in the background so as not to be seen and when he came back in, the room was dark so I went to a corner.   Then the dream went from trying to capture him to becoming extremely sinister and horrifying. He killed 3 young police officers in a very cruel way, then became like a super martial arts guy cutting off people’s heads.  I tried to get away and then woke up.

Analysis: Since this dream has a mix of negative and positive for some reason, then a good place to start is to find the positives so you know what you are already doing well and that will give the solution as to how to flip the negatives. In this case, it’s not going to be like flipping a switch, but more like how the night gradually flips to day but it takes hours. The flip is not in how the sun moves across the sky, the flip is in your own perspective because if you are awake at dawn and facing the moon side of the sky you will just see the dark of night but if you flip your body around to look at the sunrise then you see the day, just like that. It still takes the sun hours to flip the sky to night but in the meantime you can choose which part of the sky to gaze on.

KEYS TO FLIPPING NEGATIVES TO POSITIVES WHEN DEALING WITH A SERIAL KILLER in dreams

Dealing with a serial killer metaphorically in a dream is like dealing with a persistent relationship-killer in real life. It takes a more sophisticated approach like an FBI agent would need because of the high-degree of planning and strategy which Negatively Expert people can use. Someone who just does a negative thing but then learns from it and changes allows for relative peacefulness inbetween negative behaviours but a Serial Relationship-killer never rests. So the healing and investigative work with them is different too. It has to be because they are not used to anyone ever getting that close enough to even want to help. Once we wake up to the fact we’re dealing with a Serial Relationship-Killer then the real adventure begins!

  1. FIND THE OBVIOUS POSITIVES 

In this dream, the obvious positive is working with a team of FBI-type agents. This is positive because it is a sign of a high-degree of training, expertise, coordination, support and empowerment. There is likely no more powerful organization on the planet than the FBI because, in theory, they can work overtly or covertly to dismantle any form of criminal activity. So that’s positive.

The other obvious positive is that the dreamer is safe and the harm he sees is to others. Now I don’t say this to appear unempathetic to the pain of others but since this is a dream then it really matters if the pain is to the dreamer or to another. When the pain is to the dreamer than it means the change signaled by the dream, the waking up to a new virtue, will cause significant negative emotion in day-to-day life and there is very little which can be done to prevent it from happening. When the pain is to another in the dream it means the dreamer will have a significant amount of strength, energy, enthusiasm and capacity in regular waking life to deal with the negative things happening around them. More on this topic in upcoming paragraphs.

2. FIND THE VERY WORST NEGATIVE 

Here are questions to ask in order to find the very worst negative so that the most positive effect can happen most efficiently.

a) Does the dream have any physical pain to the dreamer? If no, great! That means this is a primarily emotional issue to work through and will not take a lot of time to resolve.

If yes, then ask

1) Where is the physical pain?

2) How is it caused?

3) How long-lasting is the physical pain/how deep the impact?

4) Is there a person who caused the pain, or is it environmental causes, or caused by the dreamer?

b) If there is physical pain in the dream, it is good for the dreamer to meditate/reflect on the metaphor of this body part. Louise Hay writes a lot about this in her book You Can Heal Your Life and this is a good place to explore the metaphors of the physical body.

When the metaphor is understood as best as can be in the time available then ask the next question –

3. WHAT IS THE POSITIVE OPPOSITE OF THE PHYSICAL PAIN EXPERIENCE?

The very worst part of the dream is 3 officers losing their lives in brutal ways. It means in order for the dreamer to flip this, they will have to do the opposite of the brutality. There are no details in this description so I will make up some examples. Lets say the killer uses a knife to slice at the neck of one of the victims. This means that the dreamer can be like a positive knife cutting into the experience of helping another person. The neck is useful for air flow, eating and speaking. So that means the dreamer can help the killer to cut of negative speaking, to cut out negative foods metaphorically, and to cut off the air supply when the killer is doing negative actions.

In this way, the dreamer becomes the Serial Relationship-Life Bringer.

Remember that these are all metaphors still – air flow, nourishment/food, voice.

Air is about future so cutting off air supply for an activity means ending a project or a plan abruptly.

Eating is about feeding an activity or project – when it’s positive the activity grows but when it’s negative the activity loses morality or integrity. Cutting off ability to taint a project helps to stop the Relationship Killer in their tracks.

Speaking is a powerful tool or weapon. Killers will use it to create fear and threats. Healers will use it to empower and to plant positive seeds of growth & opportunity.

4. HOW TO BECOME A SERIAL RELATIONSHIP-HEALER

The solution to this comes when the bad guy does Martial Arts to get away with his devices. The reason this is a perfect metaphor is because a Martial Artist is skilled at doing a few things which mystify an untrained civilian. They can:

a) Deal with multiple opponents simultaneously

b) Handle several weapons simultaneously

c) Defy gravity with agility and grace

d) Either be quite like a Ninja or loud like a Samurai depending on what is needed

So the solution for the dreamer is to become like a positive Marial Artist so that he too can do all these 4 things with skill to help heal the negative person in his life.

In all honesty, if someone has become a Serial-Relationship Killer metaphorically then in real life they likely have traits of a Narcissist and/or Sociopath. Surprisingly, there are more of these types of people wandering around in our families, schools, and workplaces then we would like to believe. And they get away with most of their negative behaviours because they are just so skilled at what they do.

However, this dreamer has all the skills and capacities he needs to deal with his narcissist and the solution is to become like a positive Martial Artist, able to handle multiple opponents, weapons and threats simultaneously.

When he does that, then he becomes even better in his FBI-type role because honestly, all FBI agents have some training in Martial Arts for when they get into situations which they really need to take physical action to be safe. Even a Martial Artists, trained in the art of combat can still stay out of combat.

The reason for this is because there is a pattern to the training of the movements in Martial Art. When you practice the pattern it is like going into a meditative state and going through the movements. You practice with no opponent but later when there is a real opponent you can still be in your meditative state and practice the movements without even giving  thought to the other person. They might feel as though they are in combat with you, but your experience can be as though you are just in training and then there is Detachment and Empowerment.

It renders everyone incapacitated. It works every time.

When these questions are answered and the strategies used then what happens in the dream where the scenario flips to a whole new environment with walls, corners and floors won’t happen anymore. It happened in the dream because the killer knew he had Martial Arts tricks up his sleeves and the dreamer had no idea what was coming.

But when the dreamer knows to start out with Martial Arts from the beginning, which he already does since he is an FBI agent but he just forgot it was part of the development of his role, then the dreamer can have more control over the environment and he can capture the suspect easy as 1-2-3.

 

Dream of Taekwondo, working with the metaphor

16586984_900950986674344_4894603575126233385_o(This is a relatively advanced post about dreamwork, metaphors and real life application. It will make more sense to those who have read through the 19-Day Transformation Program and/or Dreamwork Module 1: How To Interpret Your Dreams. If the ideas presented in this post interest you, please consider purchasing through the e-books so you can also experience high degrees of success and happiness through understanding the messages of your dreams and applying solutions which really work.)

Taekwondo is an interesting metaphor.

One of the things I like the most about Taekwondo is that it is based on the ancient teachings of traditional Martial Arts but it has evolved and changed into a modern sport. Along with Boxing, Karate, Wrestling, Judo and Fencing it is an Olympic sport and as such will be included in the 2020 Olympics in Japan. Participating athletes are extremely skilled.

Today I’ve been reflecting on the metaphor of Taekwondo when it shows up in a dream.

This is a sport in which individual athletes face their opponents, one-to-one, and the goal is to try to get them to go off balance, to lose their center, to lose their focus. Each athlete has the goal or agenda to win and the smartest, most skilled athlete achieves this by getting points for each punch or kick to the opponent. High kicks to the head get the most points. Also the more complex the kick the more points are awarded.

Recently I dreamed of someone wanting to learn Taekwondo from me. They wanted to spar with me and had set up an area for us. In the dream, I wasn’t up for the challenge and I went for a run instead. To me, that means I have some growing to do in the area of keeping myself on task and being ready to meet a challenge when it shows up.

My real issue in real life, which showed up in the dream, is that I have a hard time with doing something well when it makes someone I care about look bad. I would rather let them look good, even if they are wrong or messed up. I don’t want to engage with them if it makes them look bad.

So the better thing to do is a situation like the one I had in the dream would be to go in and spar with the person and let them learn from me and in doing so I can also learn from them.

In the dream the person had several belts, showing they had been advancing for a while. The problem was they were wearing many belts at the same time and the one which was the most indicative of their progress was hidden and almost falling off. That means it is like they are afraid to show their skill too.

Because the person was older than me in the dream, and the belts they weren’t wearing were dusty it’s a sign that they had learned things long ago which they had forgotten and they now are taking those things out again, dusting them off and are ready to move forward.

The first advice I would give would be to acknowledge how far they have come and to find a way to honour the growth but not to forget it totally but also to not wear it at all times.

The middle way would be something like hanging up the belts in a meaningful way on a plague or board of some sort. Then they are there and acknowledged but not weighing things down.

The other thing is this will demonstrate the actual level of skill. In my dream, the person had their yellow belt covering up their red. In real life, you would never do this. If you are a red belt, then you wear it really proudly. So this is about being proud of who you are and what you do and being happy to demonstrate it.

This is a good life lesson for everyone.

When we let any fear hold us back then we miss out on really enjoying the good things life has to offer. Fear of looking bad, or fear of making others look bad can leave us feeling disjointed and like we lost our footing.

Better to go for the challenge when it shows up, try your best, and see what happens. There’s bound to be lots of learning a long the way which is good for everyone involved!

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