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A Sonnet For my Daughter

Oh! The trauma, the terror, the turmoil…

How I miss my love, my Heart, my Daughter!

Now this joyful heart ripped out; my plans soiled.

Now what has made our connection falter?

Once here, so creative, funny, so sweet,

Now somewhere but where? I seek but can’t find.

Flew on a plane to an unknown retreat?

Haunting visions of loss ghosting my mind.

“I’m here safe” she says – a truth and a lie,

My love, my Heart, my blood, my Everything!

God, guard me from this faulty alibi.

Why’d you go? Why administer this Sting?

Once here, bold & bright like a trumpet blast!

It seemed our Forever yet didn’t last.

Now it’s no blame of yours; no blame of mine,

I miss you – you are in my Heart each day.

Our Life is a journey traveled in time,

I cherish you – in my Heart you will stay.

My message to you if I have just one –

(it’s not a ploy to attract some strange gain)

Don’t waste your young days in turmoil or shun

Life always consists of sunshine and rain

Your quick departure feels like shattered glass,

No matter the pain though, no matter the scar,

Despite My fragmented heart – this shattered mass,

I love you here and I love you a far.

I know that you know that my love is deep & true

No matter the distance I always Love YOU.

[This is a Shakespearean style sonnet with rhyming pattern abab cdcd efef gg and 10 syllables per line. ]

How to use a metaphor to transform anger & hurt into tranquility & connection

For the past month I’ve been remembering a lot of my dreams when I wake up in the morning. Most of them have been somewhat negative with threatening images or metaphors. Angry lions, snakes, alligators and bears have been in my dreams. I’ve been trying to run, trying to hide, trying to outwit them. I’ve also dreamed of bombs & fire, of being displaced, losing loved ones or being forced to live with malicious-minded people. My dreams were telling me something was going on in my real life which needed a lot of attention. Something negative was coming. Maybe several negative things in a row. I could feel it intuitively.

Then some stuff started happening in the real world. I didn’t see real lions, snakes, alligators or bears but some people I’m dealing with were showing negative behaviours as though they were vicious lions, poisonous snakes, relentless alligators and powerful bears. Suddenly I’m dealing with a lot of people’s egos & the result was I started feeling a lot of hurt & anger.

When I start doing the work to process the hurt and anger I learn a lot about myself, the people involved and the situation. I use metaphors to think about the feelings to help me understand the challenges at a deeper level.

When I feel hurt it FEELS LIKE MY HEART HAS SHATTERED LIKE BROKEN GLASS OR MIRROR. Of course, no one really shattered my mirrors or glasses in the house and no one even physically harmed me with any weapon or object. I didn’t really SHATTER….I just FELT as thought I had shattered. Since the negative emotion of hurt made me feel shattered it means that what I need is to feel connected. The solution to the negative emotion is the positive opposite of the metaphor. Since I’m feeling shattered…it means what I need to get to is a feeling of connection, of bringing many pieces together. The process that it takes to move from feeling shattered to feeling connected is where the transformation takes place.

The other strong negative emotion I’m feeling about the things people said or did is anger. When I feel angry I feel like I’m burning up. I FEEL like I’m burning at the stake. I FEEL like burning others, like getting revenge, but I have enough self-control not to but still the anger burns me alive. The feeling I have is anger but what I need is Tranquility. I feel like I’m in fire but what I need is to feel like I’m gliding down a river in a canoe. I feel like I’m dying but what I need is to feel the Tranquil serenity of floating down a river in summer. The work that I do to move from the feeling of being burned alive at the stake to feeling like I’m floating down a river in a canoe is where the transformation takes place.

Since I’m not REALLY burning at the stake it means I’m working with an image in my mind. By understanding the image, the metaphor, the feelings, the thoughts and behaviours associated with this anger then I can get to what I really want which is Tranquility in my life & in my relationships.

When you feel hurt what is the metaphor or image that comes to mind for you? What about anger? …. When you are angry what is it like – is it like detonating a bomb? like wanting to light a house on fire? like a boiling water pot about to explode? Give it some thought and share your comments in the section below. Also, remember to subscribe to Healing With Dreamwork and tell us what dream metaphors you would like to know more about.

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Dream: Bomb Explosion & Time travel

In the dream, I am in a large, multi-story complex, perhaps a downtown city mall with apartments in the upper levels.

The dream begins in what feels like the middle of a movie, the middle of a plot playing out. There are bombs in the building and I am a detective with bomb-diffusing skills. I have a large team who are spread out around the building & we’re communicating via ear communication devices.

I have just time-traveled from the recent future where a bomb has gone off in the building. I am carrying in my hand and pocket two items from the future. They are just small irrelevant things: two marbles. My team & I are tasked to alter the events of this timeline so that the bomb doesn’t go off – or if its detonation is impossible to prevent then the goal is to save as many lives as possible.

At one particularly memorable moment a large-built man is standing in shadows on a balcony in an open-court yard area looking down across the yard to me standing several floors lower. He signals to me that he knows about the “marble” and he’s not going to let me get away with this. I feel the marble in my pocket and know that it’s too late to stop the first detonation so I turn my back and alert my team that Plan B is in action – we can’t stop the building from burning but we can save lives. “Go NOW,” I tell them.

I start descending floors of stairs and as I do I hear the first bomb explode many floors above me. It has the feeling of what I’ve heard from some survivors of the attacks on the Trade Center in New York on September 11, 2001. I hear what’s happening above me and am coordinating to get people on lower-levels out before the building collapses around us. Images of that shadowy man keep flashing in my mind – he’s a time traveler too and he knows what I’m capable of and is trying to stop me by jumping many timelines. He jumps to a positive future I’ve created, sabotages it and then jumps back to “check on me”…sees what I’m trying to do to foil his plan and then he jumps forward again, sabotages that too and jumps back perpetually. How many times does he do this? It could be two or it could be two dozen. He’s relentless. I have to think quickly on my feet to avert the threat & damage he’s causing.

As I’m running down the stairs and have an idea: I will throw one of the marbles from the future down the stairs. In this way I “mark” the timeline so that I prevent him from being able to change any thing prior to the marble and that will buy me some time to get more people out and then throw the next marble locking it in.

The marbles from the future have the ability to modify or alter the time travel paradox. The way it works is that I am on Timeline A where many bombs detonate in a downtown building killing 3000 or more people and I pick up a stone or marble from the rebel. This object belongs in Timeline A. When I bring it back in time with me I am creating Timeline B. I go back to a location where there is enough time for me to change the course of events. The marble is neutral so long as it’s with me but when I release it into the “time & space” of Timeline B then I am creating some sort of loop in the space/time continuum because the marble and all its atoms are “supposed to” exist in Timeline A then when it lands on the ground in Timeline B it cancels out Timeline A for some scientific reason involving physics and the space-time continuum. Now me and the marble are the only things remaining of the old Timeline A. That allows “us” to create Timeline B which would involve the building never exploding at all. But the shadowy man already messed with Timeline B so he prevents me from saving the building thus giving me the opportunity to create Timeline C which is the building exploding and lots of people surviving. This Shadowy man does not have the ability to CREATE his own timeline, only to sabotage events and time travel to avoid detection from any “normal s” on earth.

If something happens that can’t be reversed, such as I die, or someone who has a lot of influence in the positive future I’m creating (a burning building with LOTS of survivors) gets hurt or altered in some way then I can’t create it. I have the ability to create a timeline with the future I envision so long as certain events happen in real time. My escape down the staircase & signaling my crew is the first of the alterations so I mark it by throwing the future marble down the stairs. Shadowy man cannot alter a timeline created by something which comes from a future timeline. He does not have the capabilities.

So I throw that first marble and then enter a large call-center style office unit with a hundred or so people. I signal to them we have to go and direct them to the escape route which will avoid the hottest part of the buildings flames. At this point, the fire is not yet burning the entire building but I’ve seen the future of the way the building burns so I know which way to get the survivors out.

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We are funneling down the escape route and Shadowy Man sees me and what I’ve accomplished so he activates a cell-phone triggered bomb which is close to us. I have just 60 seconds or so. If I throw the second marble it needs to land in a certain location in order to mark the timeline and prevent the second explosion from killing dozens of people. Although it’s not entirely clear to me in that moment, I am aware that there is some risk associated with throwing the second marble. Something like if I throw it then I won’t be able to time travel for a while, trapped in this timeline until my new future self comes back giving me more marbles. Or something like throwing the second marble signals to a large criminal association like the mob that the first marble-throwing timeline-altering event was not an “accident” but was me intentionally diverting their plan. Throwing the second marble improperly (at the wrong time or place) means that I will become a target to powerfully dangerous people and make my life very challenging.

We continue descending as I play out various scenarios, assessing the best option. I have a plan!

Shadowy Man sees me turn a corner with a group of people and I know exactly where his bomb is and when its set to detonate so I wait for the precious moment and as it begins to explode I slow time and I throw my marble into the sparking flame.

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This has the ability to cancel out the second bomb explosion timeline and permanently solidifies this timeline where many survivors free the building. Two things start happening….a vortex opens up in the energy of the flames in slow motion and I have the choice to jump into the future again although I’m not at all clear where I would go or why but just that if I wanted to go I could. Secondly, I start getting check ins from my crew all over the building telling me they have 100 people out from floor 6, and 300 from floor 2 and 50 people from floor five, etc. I feel such relief at the hundreds, maybe thousands of people who have just escaped a firey death.

The dream ends with me gazing into the firy vortex of energy trying to decide if I will make another jump or stay here for a while.

[Note: This dream has so many components of adventure, mystery & action so I’m using it as an outline for a novel I’m writing called 2061. Members will have access to chapters of the book soon]

Copyright Rachel Czifra Perry 2021

DREAM: Gazelles Warn of Danger

When there is a message of warning in the dream, such as the one I describe below, it means that when you do the inner work to transform the negative emotion in the dream into something new then if something potentially negative happens in real life you will have the ability to create a really positive outcome. In this way, you can shift your reality into something truly amazing. It takes time and daily effort and the really incredible results will shock and amaze you!

The reason trauma can be healed when you understand the secret messages of your dreams is because dreams exist outside of time & space. When we understand a message in a dream we can learn something about ourselves, our circumstances, and the people around us and we can begin to see negative things coming before they happen. This helps us become more prepared and it empowers us to use our skills, capacities, talents & strengths to create extremely positive experiences for ourselves, our families and our communities.

Truth be told, if there were a reward for having the most foreboding dreams in a row, I think I would win. In the past two weeks in my dreams I am:

  • canoeing in a river swarming with hungry alligators
  • hiking on a trail with snakes and lions
  • confronting an enormous bear trying to get in my house
  • running to rescue my dog who’s been attacked on the face
  • watching a herd of gazelles run from an unknown predator

Readers familiar with the way I do dreamwork (which was created & developed by author Richard Hastings), will remember that the many animals showing up in these dreams carries a lot of meaning. Here are four things to keep in mind when dreaming about animals.

  1. Like humans, animals have two sides – a positive expression of their qualities & also a negative expression. Think of how a dog can by loyal and friendly but also vicious & attacking. Dreams about animals signal where some work can be done for the dreamer to be more of the positive & less of the negative.
  2. When new energy is opening up in the dreamer, oftentimes animal dreams show up which provides guidance and clarity. So I can say that the negative energy I’m dealing with is anger, jealousy, hurt, fear – especially of being attacked by someone/something lurking hidden beneath the surface. The positives opening up for me are: empowerment (bear energy), flexibility (snake energy), strength/courage (lion energy), and … I’m still working on the alligator and the gazelle…
  3. When we flip the negative emotion of the dream to its positive opposite then we shift our perceptions and can go for opportunities which can change our circumstances. I suspect the positive of the alligator is being able to be patient and wait for the right time to leap at a goal or opportunity. When I am a Positive Alligator then I don’t react to every passing whim or fancy or emotion. I can be clear-headed, focused & patiently waiting for the right opportunity to go for my goal.
  4. When the dream is positive and outcome is good then it’s a good idea to try to incorporate the qualities of the animal because they will help with the real life situations. If the outcome is negative, then it means some work needs to be done on the issues so the outcome can be positive.

Gazelles are fast (known to run up to 60km/hr) but in the dream when I see the gazelles run by signaling that a predator is coming I turn to run with them but I know I could never keep up with their speed and in fact my running slowly would make me more vulnerable if it’s a bear or mountain lion. So I turn back to see if anything is coming but it’s just a dark path. I wonder if I can hide or maybe climb a tree. Without knowing what the gazelles are running from I find it hard to know how to protect myself.

Running in dreams usually means wanting to escape something fearful in real life. Often times, the object of the fear is a person in a perceived position of power. Facing the fear means standing strong, having clear boundaries, and having the Courage to be really big to the task. People who are addicted to power have a lot of ways of trying to make their targets feel small. When we stand in our Truth & our own Empowerment then we can be really big to the task and not allow anyone to make us feel small or threatened.

There are a number of potentially negative situations which can happen, at home, in the workplace or in the community. There are a few things I’m facing right now – all of us are facing something to one degree or another. When we remember to hold a clear vision of a bright future in our mind & we take positive action towards our goals then we never need to fear any predator. We have all the skills, capacities, talents & tools needed to overcome ANY obstacle or challenge that faces us. When we dream about animals it’s a sure sign that great big new energy is opening up and exciting things are happening! We need not be afraid of the change and we can trust ourselves and our inner guidance to move us through any difficulty or deal with any challenge.

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Ask your Self: What am I invisioning happening in the future that scares me?

If the negative thing you imagine happening has HAPPENED to you in the past and you are afraid of it happening again, then this is a REAL FEAR and the solution is to have A LOT of Courage and to learn something new to deal with your current life circumstance.

If the negative thing you imagine happening in the future has never happened to you before but you have seen it happen to others (in real life, or movies, or on the news, etc) then the issue is ANXIETY. The solution for anxiety is to look back into your past, remember what you’ve done well & succeeded in before and then repeat those actions again with A LOT OF CONFIDENCE.

I will be writing a lot more about working with Fear & Anxiety in upcoming posts.

Please feel free to share your experiences in the comments below and remember to subscribe to Healing With Dreamwork so you can be notified when the next blog post is published.

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Dreams Bring Attention To Strengths

When dreams come with clarity, the purpose is either to bring the dreamer’s attention to something they are doing well and can continue repeating with a lot of confidence or to show the dreamer areas in their life where they can grow. Part of the biggest issue that everyone in the world is facing right now is that we have old & outdated ways of thinking & behaving which are not conducive to the growth and development of humanity. Why be concerned about the growth of humanity? Good question. It’s worth exploring. 🙂

When I first started interpreting dreams with a focus on Transformation, city streets were a positive symbol of progress, entrepreneurial endeavors, and connectedness.

Today I’m reflecting on anger. It’s one of the most powerful vehicles for change because there’s so much energy behind this emotion. When I feel anger then I know it’s an opportunity to open up tranquility & calm. In my childhood, I saw angry people around me regularly and it used to scare me but that’s because some people don’t know how to feel the emotion and process it to get to the positive opposite. What I’ve learned in the transformation work is that anger is a signal to be calm & tranquil because if we fall into the anger it makes us lose our minds. When I was a child and encountered someone who was angry I would suddenly feel so frightened that I couldn’t think straight and all I would want to do is hide. But it’s not like that anymore. I can see the anger, detach from the negative, embrace the passionate energy and stay calm and get curious.

Getting curious instead of furious is a fantastic way to dissolve anger.

Ask people why they are doing something. Or ask them how’s it working out for them and genuinely be open to the response. This approach helps build understanding & compassion. BE ALERT though because if you are in a relationship with a narcissist then this cooperative approach will never work. This approach is useful between partners who equally support & honour one another, who grow together through life’s challenges and nurture one another with compassion and respect.